Recently I've been reading this book called Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton. There have been SO many things that have stuck out to me in this book. (So make sure you go read it, it's awesome!) One of the first things that stuck out to me was when Glennon talks about how women are constantly painting a perfect picture of their lives to other women. Get real, we ALL do it. We want people to think our lives are perfect, and wouldn't want to give them the idea that something is wrong, or that we actually don't have it all together like we may seem.
I find this so true in my life. Sadly, I've done this. I talk to other people and just tell them and highlight the things going great in my life, when in reality there are double the amount of good things going wrong! So many times, I've covered up the bad things in my life, to others, and pointed out only the good things. There are two things this does- keeps our true feelings and problems inside therefore not dealing with them and makes other women feel like man, that girl has got it all together! When in reality neither of them do.
Glennon decides that she is going to "put down her armor, and weapons" and just show her real self to every person she meets. She states, they're either going to love it, or run from it, which will tell her who she really doesn't need in her life.
Women spend most of their time convincing people their own life is perfect and that everything is just great. Life is great and it can be, but we all have problems, we all have horrible things happen to us, things we can't deal with alone. And God didn't intend for us to deal with and go through life alone, God gave us that drive inside of us to be with people, to talk with people, to share life's joys and life's struggles with one another.
So I think I've decided I'm just going to tell my life how it is. I don't need to spend my life trying to convince people my life is perfect, my life is ANYTHING but perfect these days. I want more people in my life who choose to still share in my life, even though my life comes with joy and yes with it's fair share of struggles and trials. I challenge you to do the same! Life is better together.
Jordan, I could not agree with you more. Everyone wishes their life was perfect, I will be the first to admit it, but honestly life would not be the same without struggle. I know from experience that no ones life is perfect and we all make mistakes but it is up to us not to make the same mistake twice but to learn from it. Without struggle we would not what patience is and having patience is very important. I am going to have to check out this book!
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree! At the school I attended before Eastern, there was this guy who when you asked him how he was doing, he didn't just say, "good." He actually told you EXACTLY how he was doing and everything that factored into that. At first it was a little difficult to get used to and everyone was a little surprised by him until we started understanding him better. I decided that I really admired the fact that he had the courage to do that, and I'm glad that you have worked up the same courage!
ReplyDeleteAfter reading this blog post I want to read this book because it is something that every woman can relate to. I think it is important to let others know what is going on in your life. It is an awesome feeling to know that you have people in your life that know your flaws, bad decisions, and hard times but that they still love you for who you are.
ReplyDeleteAnother great post!
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